I saw this on Facebook a few days ago, and knew it had to be posted this week. I think the following message piggybacks one of the steps from my ‘Thought for Thursday’ from last week. I think it’s not only a great message for young people, who are constantly trying to fit in and worried about what their peers think of them, but, there are adults who can benefit from the message, as well.
The Four Agreements is a book written by Don Miguel Ruiz. It gives four steps to live a happier life. For some, the agreements may be challenging -however, if you try your best to adopt each of them, you will definitely notice a change in your life, and as time goes by, they will become easier.
The Four Agreements are:
1. Be Impeccable with your Word: Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the Word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your Word in the direction of truth and love.
2. Don’t Take Anything Personally
Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.
3. Don’t Make Assumptions
Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.
4. Always Do Your Best
Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.
If you would like to learn more about the author, his life, this book, as well as others he has written – here is the link to his website. http://www.miguelruiz.com/index.php?p=About
Below is Part One to the audio book of ‘The Four Agreements’. If interested, you can listen to the entire book online.
In life, we will all go through many ups and downs. Everyone deals with the ‘downs’ in different ways. Some become bitter, vengeful, helpless, give up…and others use the downs as motivation to do better, become better.
Many reading this may not know the name, Tiquan Underwood. I have to admit, up until yesterday I had never heard of him, either. All of that changed when I saw the following tweet by actress, Holly Robinson-Peete, “HOW DO YOU CUT A PLAYER less than 24 hrs b4 SUPERBOWL?
#icecold Poor Tiquan Underwood his FAMILY & Friends all likely in INDY! Wow Patriots”. Underwood played defense for the New England Patriots, who will be facing the New York Giants in the Superbowl today.
Granted, to some this may be “just a football game”, however, when this is deemed to be the ultimate goal in his professional career, to have the rug pulled out from underneath him the day before the “biggest game in sports”, cannot be easy and was undoubtedly heartbreaking. Tiquan could have taken to his twitter account and lashed out at ‘those who had done him wrong’. After all, the wound was fresh. Who would have blamed him? He was so excited and loved the organization so much, he had their logo shaved into the back of his head. He had flown to Indianapolis in preparation to play; his family and friends were excited to see him play.
The news of the heartless cut by his team was not only a professional and personal blow, it was an embarrassment on a national level. Tiquan’s response was as follows:
“This Is Nothing But MOTIVATION….”
“I Been Thru A LOT…But There Are Ppl In This World w/ More Serious Problems So I Cant Hang The Head….Thank You Lord
“Good Luck To The New Enland (sic) Organization, The Coaches, & All My Teammates…
“THANK YOU To Everyone Supporting/Wishing Me Well (Fam,Friends,Ppl Who Dont Kno Me Personally) To Those Happy About What Happen…God Bless U”
“THANK YOU Everyone For Your Support & Sympathy. Im Fine, This Will Only Make Me Stronger…Tough Times Never Last But Tough Ppl Do
As hurtful as this must have been, Underwood put everything in perspective. He noted that others were going through much more and gave thanks because he was “blessed.” Hopefully, this will be an inspiration to others who think that just because they were dealt a major blow, they still have a lot to be thankful for. It’s not the end for Tiquan Underwood. Based on how he chose to deal with this situation – with maturity and class – if he continues on this path, I have no doubts that he has a promising future, in both his professional and personal lives. Good luck, Tiquan…and GOD BLESS!
If there is something blocking the happiness in your life, perhaps it could be the people you surround yourself with. A persons disposition is contagious. You could be in a good mood and things could be going great — however, if someone brings their negative energy, thoughts, actions into your life, it’s inevitable that it will have an adverse effect on your mood, thoughts and actions. Why subject yourself to that? Surround yourself with positive people – those who are uplifting, giving, caring. Instead of draining your energy, they will be a great source of empowerment for a positive change in your life.
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