Archive | October 2012

Do No Harm


This morning I awoke to news reports of yet another mass shooting. Initially, I thought it was a follow-up report of another shooting, which was reported a couple of days ago. It wasn’t. I remember a time when such incidents would be considered so horrific, news outlets would break-in with the reports,  and there would be a nationwide outcry and memorials to follow. Sadly, these stories have now become so common that they’re not even considered the ‘top story’ of the day, any longer. Are we as a nation becoming desensitized to these tragedies? And, what exactly is causing so many to take their anger out on not only the object of their frustrations, but, any and everyone in their path along the way?

In general, I never understood why any person would cause another person intentional harm. Revenge? Jealously? Or, just a lack of care of concern for people in general? It even saddens me when I see h*te comments  on the internet. What is the point? What satisfaction comes from causing verbal and/or physical harm to another?

I may be looking through ‘rose-colored glasses’, but, I truly wish people would  show more love and compassion to one another. As I stated in a previous post https://myforkedroad.wordpress.com/?s=4+letter+word it may be difficult to control your thoughts, but, acting on a negative thought has NO positive outcome, whatsoever. The more you let positive influences into your life, the more positive thoughts will fill your mind.  SPREAD LOVE and God bless us all.

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What Makes You Beautiful


I saw this video  on my friends Facebook page on Tuesday and knew immediately that it was going to be my ‘Thought for Thursday’ this week. His name is Chester Gregory and he did a cover of the song ‘What Makes You Beautiful’ by One Direction. In his words, the purpose is “to increase awareness for National Bullying Prevention Month & in response to the tragic loss of teens like Amanda Todd. Show love & share this new release & short film, for a worthy cause. – CHESS”

The video, accompanied by his vocals, makes a powerful statement. As I was watching it, it also made me think that those with low self-esteem [whether they have been bullied or not] could benefit from watching the video, as well. In the first place, those with low self-esteem would be the most susceptible to bullying, due to the fact they most likely have little to no belief in themselves and aren’t strong enough to disregard the negative comments and taunts of others….or, even their own negative thoughts of themselves.  Everyone needs to realize just how beautiful they are and that they are worthy of living a wonderful, productive life filled with love and happiness, even if their present circumstances make it seem like that is impossible.

As Chester requested, please share this video. Perhaps the message will reach that one person who needs to see it and it will be helpful to them in realizing that they are indeed BEAUTIFUL and have so much to offer, regardless of what others say.

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Selfless Act Enables High School Player to Honor His Father


Logan Thompson (left) and Michael Ferns share a hug last Friday after Thompson scored on a 1-yard touchdown run that Ferns set up by intentionally stepping out-of-bounds. Thompson’s father died of a stroke earlier in the week. / Jeff Stewart

by Jason Jordan, USA TODAY High School Sports

Early in the fourth quarter of a St. Clairsville (Clairsville, Ohio) win over Edison (Richmond, Ohio) on Oct. 5, Michigan recruit Michael Ferns took a sweep 52 yards down the left sideline and had nothing in the way of him and a touchdown.

But he slowed down as he approached the end zone and walked out-of-bounds at the 1-yard line.

“Mike ran the play to perfection,” St. Clairsville coach Brett McLean said.

Two days earlier, freshman Logan Thompson’s father, Paul, died from a sudden stroke. Once McLean learned that Logan would indeed suit up for Friday’s game against Edison, McLean began to formulate a plan to help his freshman wide receiver “honor his father.”

Secretly, McLean instructed Ferns and the other skill players, if given the chance, to stop short on a touchdown so they could get Logan in.

“When I saw Mike break away down the sideline I just started yelling for Logan,” McLean said. “He was surprised because he – like everyone else – figured Mike would just run it on in. Logan didn’t know anything about what we were doing.”

The officials were equally confused.

When Ferns literally walked away from his 12th touchdown of the season, two officials signaled for a touchdown, a call that Boston College-bound receiver Dan Monteroso adamantly argued.

“I think it’s the first time that the refs have seen our boys argue against us getting a touchdown,” McLean said. “I told Logan, ‘We’re gonna get you in the end zone.”

Thompson, a starter on the freshman team, plays sparingly at best on varsity and never lined up at running back, but McLean simplified the isolation play call with three words: “Just follow Ferns.”

“Mike and the line opened up a huge hole for Logan and he ran it right in,” McLean said. “He had his first touchdown on his first carry. Mike ran up to Logan and gave him a big hug. It was emotional for everyone.”

St. Clairsville ended up winning, 56-27.

Logan’s emotion poured out onto Twitter after the game. “Looking straight up into the sky after scoring my first varsity touchdown…i know the old man was watching! love and miss you so much daddy,” he tweeted.

Still grieving, Logan and Ferns declined to comment on this story.

“They’re teenagers and it’s not something they want to talk about today,” McLean said. “Last Friday was something that touched the whole team. Logan was going through so much and for a few minutes we helped him get his mind off of things. It honored his dad. It was just an awesome moment.”

source: http://www.usatodayhss.com/news/article/michael-ferns-logan-thompson-selfless-act

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It Takes Two


Over the years I have come in contact with those, who for some reason or another, want to engage me in a verbal argument. I have done rather well in maintaining my composure and not “giving in”. The most recent incident occurred two days ago,  when I was dealing with a first time vendor.

I placed an order for a service and asked the woman who was handling the account to fax over an invoice [and credit card authorization form, if necessary]so that I could make payment. “Pay first! ” she snapped. I told her I needed to confirm the charge amount  and that the order was correct before I made payment.  She proceeded to scream and hurl as many insults as she could – “You don’t know what you’re doing!”, “You’re worthless!”, etc.

Without raising the tone of my voice to match hers, I told her to calm down and let me call my boss to get authorization to pay her because this was our procedure for everything we purchase. “Well, your procedure is wrong!”  “Who hired you?”, etc… Even with her rudeness and unprofessionalism, I wasn’t going to hang up on her, but told her I would call her back after I spoke to him. “No, I’m not hanging up until you pay me!”  She was making it extremely difficult to complete the transaction, and even said she was going to have me fired. Still, I wasn’t going to let her change my demeanor.  I said, “God Bless you and have a wonderful day,” after I gave her our credit card information.

Approximately five minutes later, she called back with these words [paraphrasing], “I called back to apologize. I am so sorry for the way I spoke to you.  I get like that, sometimes. You were just doing your job  and I had no right to speak to you that way. It was a pleasure doing business with you and I hope you have a great day.

Not all scenarios will end the same way, but the point of  the story and my ‘Thought for Thursday’ is that IT TAKES TWO people to engage in an argument.  If someone approaches you with an attitude, negative disposition or intentionally or unintentionally tries to ruffle your feathers – don’t let them. The natural response may be, “I’m not going to allow someone to speak to me that way – which no one should; but, if you both go at it tit-for-tat there will be no resolution to the situation. Things will inevitably escalate and make matters worse.  If there is no talking to the person or calming them down, let them rant and rave by themselves.  Sometimes, an earlier situation may be the cause of them “snapping” for no reason and you are just the person they choose to release their frustrations upon. Regardless of the reason, nothing positive can come from two, or more, people yelling back and forth at each other. No one gets heard.

Remember if you respond to negativity with negativity, the outcome will NEVER be a good one. However, if you stay positive and pleasant, there is a probable chance that there will be a positive outcome…and perhaps even an apology to come your way. 🙂

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Missed Opportunities


“Opportunities always look bigger going than coming” ~ Bob Feller

Most of the time I base my ‘Thought for Thursday’ posts on something I have either read about or heard about during the prior week. It’s my way of addressing the person(s) indirectly, even if they aren’t even aware that this site exists. My hope is that by sharing my thoughts on the situation, others who come across the post, who might be in a similar situation, will read it,  take a deeper look at their situation, and hopefully come to a better understanding or reach a positive resolution.

Well, the ‘Thought for Thursday’ for this week is an important message that I need to heed, as well…

A couple of days ago, I missed out on a great opportunity. I was down in the dumps about it [I’m still climbing out] and even had somewhat of a restless sleep that night, over it. The following day, I had to put it into perspective. First of all, in the grand scheme of things, it really isn’t that much of a big deal – when you think about it. No life altering circumstance. I’ve missed out on opportunities before and had the same mindset, at the time, “OMG! This will never happen again!!!” And, you know what? I was wrong. Either, I was presented with the same opportunity at a later date; a different opportunity presented itself, which matched it; or, an even better opportunity came along. My point is – I got over it. And, I will get over this, too.  Now, I just have to be prepared for when the next great opportunity comes along. I know it’s coming and I can’t wait! 🙂

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