Archive | January 2013

Be Your Authentic Self


Sooner or later, a lie which is told today, will eventually be revealed tomorrow.

With the news of Lance Armstrong supposedly “coming clean” tonight in his interview tonight with Oprah Winfrey on her network, OWN; the unbelievable story of Manti Te’o’ and the girlfriend who never existed; and, the countless episodes of many pretending to be someone who they are not on the hit TV show, ‘Catfish’, the theme for this weeks ‘Thought for Thursday’ is about the lengths some people go to be something other than who they are.

Lance ArmstrongLance was hailed for years, winning the Tour de France for an unprecedented seven times. He also made headlines for his bout with testicular cancer and for raising millions of dollars for his charity ‘Livestrong’.  He had most rooting for him. After being accused of ‘doping’ for several years, and adamantly denying he had ever done anything wrong, his house of cards started to fall. His deception was due to his quest for money and notoriety. In the end, he will most likely lose both.

Manti Te’oManti Te’o, a linebacker for the University of Notre Dame, is currently embroiled in a suspicious story involving an alleged longtime girlfriend who coincidentally died the same day as his grandmother. According to Te’o, the relationship had taken place entirely online and via phone calls. However, the girlfriend never existed. An investigation is underway to determine whether Te’o was the victim of an elaborate hoax, or if he took part in the deception to get sympathy votes toward his quest to win the Heisman trophy, in which he came in second. Either way, many lies were told, and those who played a part in the hoax will pay a hefty price, as the truth comes to light.

Link to ‘Deadspin’ article, which broke the story: http://deadspin.com/5976517/

Computer loveOn the TV show, ‘Catfish’, those who have entered into online “relationships” with others, seek help in meeting their love interests in person. Of the episodes I’ve seen, all have been hiding their true identity for one reason or another.  They told lie upon lie for vengeful purposes, or their own insecurity issues. In the end, the person who was duped, ended up hurt, confused and embarrassed, and the person who perpetuated the fraud ended up being exposed.

As far as the people listed above, everyone can speculate on what their motives were, but no one really knows what is in the mind of someone who makes the conscious effort to deceive. But one thing can be said of all – they lied for self-gratification. Perhaps they had ill intent from the start, or, perhaps they didn’t think things would get out of hand the way it did. But, once you tell one lie, you have to keep telling lie after lie to keep the first lie going.

It’s fine if someone seeks notoriety for their own merits/accomplishments. But, when the desire for attention or accolades overtakes the truth, everything gets skewed and out of control. The lies will eventually bring you down. When you are authentic – warts and all – you may not be the most talked about, liked, sought after or praised, but you will have one thing the others will never have – peace of mind.

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Another person who pretended to be someone they weren’t:

Paralyzed by ALS, Susan Spencer-Wendel Writes Memoir About the Beauty of Living


Spencer-Wendel with her family. (Photo: SusanSpencerWendel.com)

Spencer-Wendel with her family. (Photo: SusanSpencerWendel.com)

By Lylah M. Alphonse, Senior Editor, Yahoo Shine 

As her body succumbed to amyotrophic lateral sclerosis, also known as ALS or Lou Gehrig’s Disease, journalist Susan Spencer-Wendelwrote her life story. It took her three months to type it, letter by letter on her iPhone, using just her right thumb – all of her other fingers had stopped working by then.

“I cannot lift my arms to feed myself or hug my children,” the 45-year-old mother of three wrote in “Until I Say Goodbye: My Year of Living With Joy,” which will be published in March. By then, she says, she will probably no longer be able to speak clearly.

“My muscles are dying, and they cannot return. I will never again be able to move my tongue enough to clearly say, ‘I love you’,” she wrote. “Swiftly, surely, I am dying. But I am alive today.”

“Until I Say Goodbye” will become available in March 2013. (Image: SusanSpencerWendel.com)

“Until I Say Goodbye” will become available in March 2013. (Image: SusanSpencerWendel.com)

A former courts reporter for the Palm Beach Post newspaper in south Florida, Spencer-Wendel lives in Florida with her husband, John, and their children, Marina, 15, Aubrey, 11, and Wesley, 8. She was diagnosed with the disease during the summer of 2011, and swiftly decided to make every moment count.

Spencer-Wendel, who was adopted, met her birth mother in Northern California and journeyed to Cyprus to learn about her birth father. Before her body could fail her, she traveled to the Yukon to see the Northern Lights with her best friend, Nancy Maass Kinnally, in December 2011; her hands were so weak that Kinnally had to dress her in the heavy-duty cold-weather gear.

“Time to stop dreaming and start doing, I thought,” she wrote of her trip.

She and her daughter, then just 14, went to New York City to pick out Marina’s wedding dress at Kleinfeld’s Bridal, where the TLC reality show “Say Yes to the Dress” is set. Both mother and daughter are fans of the show; both know that Spencer-Wendel will not live to see her daughter walk down the aisle.

“As my beautiful daughter walks out of the dressing room in white silk, I will see her ten years in the future, in the back room right before her wedding, giddy and crying, overwhelmed by a moment I will never share,” she wrote. “When my only daughter thinks of me on her wedding day, as I hope she will, I want her to think of my smile when I say to her at Kleinfeld’s, ‘You are my beautiful’.”

She and her husband went to Budapest to celebrate their 20th wedding anniversary in May 2012. She wrote about her travels for the Palm Beach Post, where her stories caught the eye of editors at publishing giant HarperCollins. They offered her $2 million for her memoir; co-written with Bret Witter, “Until I Say Good-Bye” is expected to be translated into 25 languages. Universal Studios paid her another $2 million for the movie rights to her story.

But she knows that she doesn’t have much time left.

“My decline is speeding up: each day I lose more steps and words. I now choke at most every meal, episodes which leave people around me screaming ‘Should we call 911?’ Ergo, I don’t eat much anymore,” she wrote in a New Year’s email to The Palm Beach Post.

“I knew it would be this way. So for Thanksgiving we had our major holiday event. Our entire families-40 in all-came. Was wonderful. Hectic, but wonderful,” she continued. “Thus, Christmas is a time just for John and me and our children.”

They celebrated by giving money to their favorite charities, and special “forever” gifts for family members-scrapbooks for her children, jewelry that can be handed down to her future daughters-in-law and grandchildren, personal gifts for her husband and parents. But the most tangible part of her legacy is her book.

“I am writing about accepting, about living with joy and dying with joy and laughing a helluva lot in the process,” Spencer-Wendel wrote on her website. With her memoir, she’s crossing one last item off of her life’s to-do list: “To make people laugh and cry and hug their children and joke with their friends and dwell in how wonderful it is to be alive.”

source: http://shine.yahoo.com/secrets-to-your-success-20120120/paralyzed-als-susan-spencer-wendel-writes-memoir-beauty-194500854.html

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Staying Young at Heart


Grow OldRegardless of what is going on in your life, you must make an effort to have fun, as much as possible. This is especially true for those who may be going through stressful situations, such as financial problems, personal problems, or perhaps just have a very busy schedule.  Over the years, I have seen and heard of many who have lost their zest for life. They get into a routine and before you know it, they’re figuratively sitting in a rocking chair, wearing a shawl.  “I don’t have time for this”, “I’m too tired to do that”, “I’m too old to try that”.  It’s sad to see people let life pass them by.

Don’t let your chronological age stop you. In fact, sometimes a person’s chronological age may not even be a factor. I’ve seen some  “young” people act the same way. Instead, do as many fun things as possible, regardless of how big or small they may be – take a trip, join a club, go dancing, take up a new hobby, learn something new, meet new people, etc. Whether you do it alone or with someone, if you partake in the many wonderful things that life has to offer, it will make your life more fulfilling, make you a happier person, and keep you young at heart. DON’T STOP PLAYING! 

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Life of Pi


My favorite movie of 2012 was ‘Life of Pi’. It is a spiritual story of a young boy who pushes himself through insurmountable odds to survive – mentally and physically. The film is visually beautiful and has a great message. If you haven’t seen it, I highly recommend it. Check out the trailer below.

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Man Offers His House to Homeless Family for a Year


Tony TolbertBy Lee Cowan

(CBS News) For most parents, when a child leaves the nest it’s usually for good. But at age 51, Tony Tolbert has come home again. And it’s for all the right reasons — or so says his mom.

“He is so giving, and he’s always been that way,” said Marie Tolbert.

Tony grew up in a home that always seemed to have a spare bed — thanks to his father – Jimmy Tolbert.

An entertainment lawyer in Los Angeles, Tolbert’s dad extended a hand to almost anyone down on their luck. In fact, Tolbert can’t remember a time there wasn’t someone extra living in their house — and that gave the Harvard-educated attorney an idea.

He decided to take his dad’s generosity one step further.

He announced he was moving back home, because he was giving up his own fully furnished L.A. home, rent free, for a full year  — to a family he’d never even met.

“You don’t have to be Bill Gates or Warren Buffet or Oprah,” Tolbert said. “We can do it wherever we are, with whatever we have, and for me, I have a home that I can make available.”

But to whom? Tolbert sought out a shelter for homeless women and children called Alexandria House. It was there he found Felicia Dukes.

Needless to say, she couldn’t believe the offer when she heard it.

“They had a young man that wanted to donate their house to you for a year,” Dukes recounted. “And I’m looking at her, like, what? Like — Are you serious?”

Dukes had been sharing a single room at the shelter with three of her children. But it was for kids only and her older son couldn’t join them. So not only was the family homeless and broke, but separated.

Until the boxes arrived at Duke’s new home — Tolbert’s old one. And shortly after the boxes, her son showed up too.

“My heart just fills up and stuff, um….I’m just really happy,” Dukes said tearfully.

And those weren’t the only tears of joy.

Tolbert also became emotional when he talked about the life lessons he learned from his father, who is now suffering from Alzheimer’s Disease.

“Kindness creates kindness. Generosity creates generosity. Love creates love,” he said. “And I think if we can share some of that and have more stories about people doing nice things for other people, and fewer stories about people doing horrible things to other people, that’s a better world.”

Not a bad thought to begin the new year.

source: http://www.cbsnews.com/8301-505263_162-57561565/man-offers-his-house-to-homeless-family-for-a-year/

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Put a Little Love in Your Heart


written by: Jackie DeShannon, Randy Myers, and Jimmy Holiday

Think of your fellow man
lend him a helping hand
put a little love in your heart.
You see it’s getting late
oh please don’t hesitate
put a little love in your heart.
And the world will be a better place
and the world will be a better place
for you and me
you just wait and see

Another day goes by
and still the children cry
put a little love in your heart.
If you want the world to know
we won’t let hatred grow
put a little love in your heart.
And the world will be a better place
and the world will be a better place
for you and me
you just wait and see

Take a good look around and
if you’re lookin’ down
put a little love in your heart
I hope when you decide
kindness will be your guide
put a little love in your heart.
And the world will be a better place
and the world will be a better place
for you and me
you just wait and see
put a little love in your heart each and every day
put a little love in your heart there’s no other way
put a lttle love in your heart, it’s up to you
put a little love in your heart…