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Man Offers His House to Homeless Family for a Year


Tony TolbertBy Lee Cowan

(CBS News) For most parents, when a child leaves the nest it’s usually for good. But at age 51, Tony Tolbert has come home again. And it’s for all the right reasons — or so says his mom.

“He is so giving, and he’s always been that way,” said Marie Tolbert.

Tony grew up in a home that always seemed to have a spare bed — thanks to his father – Jimmy Tolbert.

An entertainment lawyer in Los Angeles, Tolbert’s dad extended a hand to almost anyone down on their luck. In fact, Tolbert can’t remember a time there wasn’t someone extra living in their house — and that gave the Harvard-educated attorney an idea.

He decided to take his dad’s generosity one step further.

He announced he was moving back home, because he was giving up his own fully furnished L.A. home, rent free, for a full year  — to a family he’d never even met.

“You don’t have to be Bill Gates or Warren Buffet or Oprah,” Tolbert said. “We can do it wherever we are, with whatever we have, and for me, I have a home that I can make available.”

But to whom? Tolbert sought out a shelter for homeless women and children called Alexandria House. It was there he found Felicia Dukes.

Needless to say, she couldn’t believe the offer when she heard it.

“They had a young man that wanted to donate their house to you for a year,” Dukes recounted. “And I’m looking at her, like, what? Like — Are you serious?”

Dukes had been sharing a single room at the shelter with three of her children. But it was for kids only and her older son couldn’t join them. So not only was the family homeless and broke, but separated.

Until the boxes arrived at Duke’s new home — Tolbert’s old one. And shortly after the boxes, her son showed up too.

“My heart just fills up and stuff, um….I’m just really happy,” Dukes said tearfully.

And those weren’t the only tears of joy.

Tolbert also became emotional when he talked about the life lessons he learned from his father, who is now suffering from Alzheimer’s Disease.

“Kindness creates kindness. Generosity creates generosity. Love creates love,” he said. “And I think if we can share some of that and have more stories about people doing nice things for other people, and fewer stories about people doing horrible things to other people, that’s a better world.”

Not a bad thought to begin the new year.

source: http://www.cbsnews.com/8301-505263_162-57561565/man-offers-his-house-to-homeless-family-for-a-year/

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Man Saves Mystery Cabbie During Storm


By CHRISTINA NG | ABC News

As superstorm Sandy’s winds and rain hit Manhattan, a man spotted a taxi trapped in the street. The water around it was getting higher and higher. When he realized the driver was still in the car, he rushed to help.

Jon Candelaria, a 25-year-old who works in accounting, was in his apartment near the East River, looking out the window as the streets below filled with water. He saw the taxi do a 360-degree turn and end up in the rising flood. Candelaria, dressed in basketball shorts, threw on a jacket and sneakers and rushed down into the street.

“It was so dangerous but it didn’t even matter to me,” he told ABC News. “All that mattered was, not even my own life, but just getting this guy out of the car and saving his life. That’s all that mattered.”

Candelaria said the water was chest-deep and freezing.

“When I got down there and I started walking through the water, then it hit me. I could pretty much die right now,” he said. “I thought about my daughter and I told myself, if anything was to happen to me, I know my family could take care of her. I know that for a fact.”

He could see the cab rocking and briefly thought about how he could be electrocuted by falling power lines, but pushed that thought from his mind and kept going. When he got to the driver, the water was already up to his chin.

“I’m glad I got there on time. I guess five more minutes and he would’ve been drowning,” he said. “I put him on this shoulder. I was like, ‘Please don’t panic, don’t freak out. The water is very high.’ And he was like, ‘All right.'”

Candelaria said he struggled to carry the man in the flood, his energy draining.

“But I was like, ‘I can’t stop in the middle of the water. What am I going to do? We could both die,'” he recalled. “So I just kept going with everything I had. Kept pushing. Every little energy, every little strength I had. I just kept going.”

Candelaria’s neighbor Rita Callahan saw the rescue.

“I live on the fifth floor. He lives on seven and he beat me,” she said. “He was out there and he just did it. That’s a hero. A hero doesn’t think about himself. He thinks about helping people.”

When they made it back, the two men took a moment to pose for a photo together before going their separate ways. Candelaria said he does not even know the taxi driver’s name.

“I wasn’t trying to be a hero,” he said. “I just couldn’t watch a man die in front of me. I wouldn’t be able to live with myself for the rest of my life, knowing I could’ve done something and I didn’t do it…For me that was my life-changing event. I had two so far — watching my daughter come into this world and saving a man’s life.”

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Right Now…RISE


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What’s on Your ‘Bucket List’?


I’ve done a lot in my life – personally and professionally, and I am always telling everyone to get out there and do what you want NOW and not to put things off.

I still haven’t seen the movie ‘The Bucket List’ but, for many reasons (many friends, family and family of friends were lost within the last few years; my recent health issues – which thankfully, are on the mend; and, the recent news of the student who tragically passed only days after her college graduation),  I starting wondering if there was anything left that I wanted to do.

I am a very low-maintenance person so, it’s the simple things that make me happy. There is something to be said for getting older, I am totally loving my life and the people I have chosen to surround myself with. I know who I am as a person and I am completely satisfied with all that I have done and all I have known. They say that once you have reached your goals, you have to set new ones for yourself. So, with that said, I decided to come up with a ‘list’ of things that I have yet to do but, want to do before…well…you know 🙂

Personal List: Go on a trip with my grandchildren, help my son with his company, spend some quality time with my sister. Buy something really, really, REALLY special for all of ’em. Surprise my best friends with something special, give more to charity, help others with their personal goals.

Professional List: Same as it has always been – work at something I love to do, regardless of the pay. My favorite jobs have been the ones with the lowest pay (or even NO pay Egads! lol). And, money has never been the key to my happiness. Some of my happiest times were when I was “broke, broke”. I would also love to help others with their professional aspirations.

Fun List: Finish my autobiography, take a course in photography, learn to play the saxophone or piano, learn a foreign language, learn the Samba, work or attend the ‘Oscars’ (I might be able to cross this off since I attended the Oscars red carpet this year) , go to Paris, fly overseas to go to a concert…and dare I say, run a marathon??? hmmm….I’m not sure about that one, but it would be a challenge. I’ve already done skydiving and scuba diving so, I can’t think of anything else in the ‘things I thought I’d never do’ category; perhaps, I should start off with running a mile…or around the block 🙂

People I want to meet: Most of the people I’ve ever wanted to meet, I have met. The main two, who were on my list that I never met, were Michael Jackson and Sammy Davis Jr. Although I’ve had a brush with the following three people, I think I would like to have a conversation with Oprah Winfrey, Ellen Degeneres and George Clooney because they seem to be genuine, caring and giving people and I’d like to discuss their humanitarian efforts, among other things..and, I can’t forget Hugh Jackson and Carol Burnett! 🙂

What is on your bucket list?

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Help Somebody


A few things that are at the top of my list of things I will never comprehend is people who are unkind to others, and, people who are selfish and do not lend a helping hand to those in need.  As I was on my way home, today, I was rushing to the corner to cross the street and catch my bus.  I noticed an older man – approximately in his mid sixties –  sitting in a wheelchair at the corner of the busy intersection. As I got closer, I heard him calling out, “Hello, hello, can someone help me?”  I realized that the groups of people who were a few feet in front of me, passed right by. I asked him, “Do you need some help?”, he replied, “Oh, please, can you help me cross the street?”  I knew the man was blind, as well, because I could see his eyes behind his shades.” I told him I would, and as we crossed the street, he said, “I knew someone had to stop sooner or later. God bless you.”  I began to seethe. How on earth could able-bodied people just walk past a disabled person in need, calling out for assistance? It  would have taken no more than one minute of their time. When we got to the corner, the man told me that he could make it from there, he just needed help crossing that particular street. We said goodbye to one another and parted ways. As I walked to my bus stop, I was still bothered and I wondered to myself, how many people had passed him by, before the groups I saw,  and how long he had been sitting there.

A similar situation happened a few months ago, when I was on a bus. A feeble, elderly man got on, and he was shaking  as he tried to hold onto the pole. Absolutely no one got up to offer their seat. I cannot even count the times I’ve seen pregnant women standing, and no one offered a seat. I could go on and on with selfish acts I’ve witnessed or heard.

It makes me so sad and disappointed when I see people being cruel or selfish when it comes to helping others in need. If you ever think of passing by or disregarding someone in need, just remember.

“There but for the grace of God go I.”

One day, you could be that person. If it’s in your power to do so –  please….HELP SOMEBODY.

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There’s a moving inner peace that I love to see
Gotta raise my soul to tell you how I feel
Gotta listen to the tears that people cry for me
In a world that’s so wild fear creeps

‘Cause when I get up to hear you tears just fill my eyes
Now I know I got to let the selfishness subside
Tell ‘em y’all

Help somebody, help somebody
Show them what it is, give a little bit more
Help somebody, help somebody
Show them what it is, let ‘em know

If you see the future ask it if I’m there
Ask it if I’m there

Ask it to tell you did I ever make a stand
Ask if you may care to mention, did I learn from everything?
And even if it takes a sea of eternity to know
I’ll wait a century, a buried mess of bones, help me

Help me to give myself the way that you’ve given you
Help me to be the helping hand that makes a dream come true
Choir sing

Help somebody, help somebody
Show them what it is, give a little bit more
Help somebody, help somebody
Show them what it is, let ‘em know

If I’m there, tell me if I’m there
Do you see me there?

Help somebody, help somebody
Show them what it is, give a little bit more
Help somebody, help somebody
Show them what it is, let ‘em know

If you see the future ask it if I’m there
Ask it if I’m there

Feed Each Other


I posted the following on my blog over a year ago and love the message so much, I decided to re-post it for those who may have missed it.

A holy man was having a conversation with God one day and said, “God, I would like to know what Heaven and Hell are like.”

God led the holy man to two doors.

He opened one of the doors and the holy man looked in.  In the middle of the room was a large round table. In the middle of the table was a large pot of stew, which smelled delicious and made the holy man’s mouth water. The people sitting around the table were thin and sickly and appeared to be famished. Each person sitting had a spoon with a very long handle strapped to their arms.  While this allowed them to scoop the soup from the pot, they could not scoop the soup back into their mouths. The holy man shuddered at the sight of their misery and suffering.

God said, “You have seen Hell.”

They went to the next room and opened the door. It was exactly the same as the first one.  There was the large round table with the large pot of stew which made the holy man’s mouth water. The people were equipped with the same long-handled spoons, but here the people were well nourished and plump, laughing and talking. The holy man said, “I don’t understand…”

“It is simple,” said God. “It requires but one skill.”

“You see they have learned to feed each other, while the greedy think only of themselves.”